Whether you’re the bride, the groom or a guest, here are the five golden rules of using social media on the big day…
1. Newlyweds – do give your guests a hashtag to use on Twitter and Instagram
Something simple and easy for guests to remember after a glass or two of fizz; for example, #EmilyAndMark2014. This will make it easy-peasy to collate any pictures taken on your wedding day – and will also lend the occasion a pleasing sense of impressive gravitas. Alternatively, if you don’t want your guests to share photos until after the big day, make it clear: ask your officiant to tell your guests to put their gosh-darned phones away before the ceremony begins.
2. Guests – do not assume you can take photos during the ceremony
The bride and groom probably won’t want to be distracted by a dozen flashing iPhones as they exchange their vows, so check to see if there’s a note in the programme saying so. Oh, and while we’re here: whatever you do, guests, make sure your mobile phone is on silent!
3. Newlyweds – do ask your guests to not share photos until after the big day
You’re totally within your right to want to be the first one to upload a photograph of you and your groom on the big day. Make it clear if you don’t want your guests to upload any images on the day itself and ask one of your bridesmaids to keep vigilant in case you get tagged in any unflattering photos. And don’t forget, you’re the bride – so you’re totally within your right to ask for an Insta-tan to be added (we recommend Mayfair, FYI).
4. Newlyweds – do change your Facebook settings
Crank your privacy settings up a notch so you can control which tagged photos do and don’t make it on to your profile. However, maybe hold off from logging on just to change your relationship status on the big day itself – you don’t want to disrupt the B.D.E. (Best Day Ever, duh) trying to find mobile signal so you can change from ‘engaged’ to ‘married’.
5. Newlyweds – don’t ask your guests to hand in their mobile phones
You’re not a Hollywood star, and chances are you haven’t signed a six-figure deal with a magazine for coverage exclusivity. After all, this is your wedding day – not an exam!